What do you do if you can't get anyone...and you're always alone?

[Love_Wonderer]

It just seems like I can't get anyone, first off the girl that I loved deeply and still do. I couldn't get her but if she is single next year, then I'll show her how great I really am. But, then after that failing attempt, I tried asking another girl out and she told me she had a bf. I always have bad timing. I asked other girls out not knowing they had a bf, coming to find out they did. I tried a lot of girls and it seems I can't get anyone. So what do I do? It seems I have ran out of girls to ask. There are some but I never talk to them and they're WAY to good for me. I know that. So what do you do when you can't get anyone, and you're always alone?

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Love wanderer,
Firstly i wanted to tell you that this is not the end of the world. Your still so young and your taking everything so seriously. Sometimes in life, we have to face situations where nothing ever turns out right for us. No matter how hard we try to get something we want, everything always back fires and we are left standing back in square one.

I know a guy who is in a similar situation to you and he always comes to me for advice - but now im running out of advice for him because he doesnt seem to understand what a bright future he has ahead of him. And if he lives continuously searching for a girl and acting like its the end of life if he is left alone, then he is going to be a failure in many aspects of his life.

Love wanderer, why dont u just concentrate on your studies and have girls as friends. If you run around acting like a desperate person, asking a million different girls out, then you wont get anyone. As a girl, i can tell you from now that we dont like it when guys act all desperate and when we say no they go straight to another girl...this is a major turn off!

So my advice to you, is forget about having a girlfriend right now...just enjoy yourself and go out and have fun and if its meant to be, you will meet someoen and things will "just happen" naturally. Dont go chasing it, let it come to you!

Good luck!:)

[rmooshilshargeya]

THANK MORBID...now you left me nothing to add to that!! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_pissed.gif" alt="" /> just kidding.. <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.W, i totaly agree with Morbid Angel 69.
Desperate is not a nice outfit you want people to see you wearing. Be confident, optimistic and hopefull. There is more to life than just girl...people say..if your ignore 'em they start comin to you in hundreds -dont know how far that is true- <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
SMILE AND BE OPTIMISTIC

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

<img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Thanx bronze for adding the extra finishing touches to my last response to this thread <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Love_Wonderer]

Would it be a bad thing to find someone over the internet? I know all of the bad things that happen to people and I have watched enough movies and shows about this subject that tells me of the dangers. Is it a kind of solution to being alone? Is it worth it?

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Love wanderer u have to take a lot of precautions when it comes to finding someone over the net because we dont know whos on the other side of the computer...for all u know it could be a mass murderer or rapist or a plain simple pedophile!

[Love_Wonderer]

This girl I have talked to, I talked to her a year ago and now all of a sudden I found her in a chatroom and began talking to her again. I talked to her over the phone so she really isn't a pedophile and if she is a older woman, I would still tap her but she would have to be hott. Or kind of good looking.

[a7la_amouna]

if you want my advice.(love wonderer)

keep the life going with out you search for the love becz it's will come for you and be sure u will get it becz if god want to do something it will happen believe in god and you will see that <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Snake]

Do not fall for someone over the internet. There is a 0.0002% chance of it working out.

Why do you really want a relationship? It's just trouble and unnecessary stress.

Go to parties, get laid, and you'll stay happy. Relationships cost money, and there is a 100% of it leading to heartbreak.

Look for relationships when you are looking to settle down, not right now.

(I dont know your age but I'm presuming late teens?)

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Snake i dont think that telling him to go out and get laid will solve the solution. It is in human nature to want to be involved with someoen. We all want someone to love us and we all want to bring love to someone else. However, running around from girl to girl, just to see if she is the "right one" will not get you anywhere.
I think love wanderer is too young to be thinking serious about relationships!!

[Snake]

See, sometimes kids are under this false impression that they need a relationship in order to be happy or to feel loved/wanted by someone other than their parents as the novelty of that wore off a few years back. When in actual fact, all they need is some good no strings attached sex.

Yes, you can get into a relationship, then cry everyone a river when everything sinks (which is definately going to happen somewhere along the line), and crawl into a soggy pit of depression and self loathing for a few months while you try to recover, when other guys are out there still having fun and living life to the fullest while they still dont have any need to commit to anything apart from enjoying their younger life which they only ever live once.

Just my 0.02c

[hershey317]

why r u THAT DESPERATE?
every1 in ma skool has bin out atleast 1cu
have i?
hell nawww
y do u care?
i meen
i juss dunt get it

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Snake dont confuse loneliness or the want to have someone to show that they care and love you...with the want of SEX! they are completely different and love wanderer is sensible enough not to have one night stands or sleep around just to try and forget about his 'real' feelings. Many negative outcomes can result from having sex with no strings attached as u mentioned....what if the girl gets pregnant - are the strings still unattached then??????????????

[Snake]

You shouldn't need to attach anything at a young age. It's really up to him though, and while he may feel he needs a relationship, it's probably just the lack of female company making him feel that way. Go out and fool around just once, and I'm sure it will get rid of his cravings for female companionship.

If the guy and the girl are ready to sleep around and still aren't taking the proper precautions they are idiots anyway, and any consequences of that are entirely their fault.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

snake telling him to go out and fool around is just a reflection of what you do when u lack the so caled "female companionship!"
I know what love wanderer is feeling , I know what he means when he feels lonely and wants to have a girl in his life. He happens to be a descent young man, and im sure he has alot of morals and wouldnt even consider having a one night stand. He also doesnt lack female company, he goes to school and he has many female friends...he is juts looking for someone to "love" not to "fu**"!!!

[Snake]

Well, I'm all for fu***** then. I get my fix and still have time for hobbies and friends. <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

shame that u can come on here and talk that way!

[DevilsAdvo]

Why? He makes perfect sense!

Bro's before Ho's <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

totally makes me sick!
i wonder what you would all be thinking if a woman came online and saying the exact same thing as you????

[DevilsAdvo]

I would be thinking...

"Wanna meet up some time?" <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

[matrex_girl]

shame on you!!
girls arent games..or toys we are human like you do...if you are sad then girls also get sad..we are the same( well not like you) but in general...if all what you think of is playing with a girl think as this ...will you be happy if some one did it to your sis?????? ha Mr Keanu Reeves?

[DevilsAdvo]

Look, I'm sorry. I cannot go out with you. As Keanu Reeves I am way too busy working on The Matrix 3 and 4. It's bad enough keeping the girls away at the movie promotional events. Really I'm flattered, but please control yourself. Snake has already established that this cannot work over the internet.

Sorry - I hate to break it to you but we cannot let this go any further. The Matrix is real. You cannot handle the Matrix. It would not be fair to subject you to it.





"Think about playing with a girl..." hehe - guilty as charged <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Honestly devil
You need to respect all women and not use them for your own benefit and then throw them out when your done destroying their reputation and feeling of self worth.
As matrex girl mentioned, what would you do if a man did that to your sister or a female friend whom you were close friends with???

I dont understand why some men think women are just toys... <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_sad2.gif" alt="" />

Because personally, I have very little respect for men who have that mentality....!

[Smile]

<font color="red"> Guys guys, please stick to the topic. ThanQ<!--color-->[/color]

[DevilsAdvo]

Smile - this is the topic.

Morbid try and follow...

You said "i wonder what you would all be thinking if a woman came online and saying the exact same thing as you????"

I responded with wanting to meet up - what is wrong with meeting someone with exactly the same interests? <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> You asked a question and got a perfect answer.

When did I ever say I would throw them away when I'm done!?

Only way I could destroy a woman's reputation or feeling of self worth is through rape. If she consents to it, therefore it is not rape, then she brings that reputation onto her self. I think I have enough respect for women to let them be able to think for themselves and make their own concious decisions... strangely I get the impression that you Morbid do not give women that courtesy!

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Ummm excuse me?
<img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_yawn.gif" alt="" />

[DevilsAdvo]

What do you want to do? Read it again or have me re-write it?

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

You mentioned that I dont give women that courtesy or something?????

By the way this isnt the place to argue over that, smile asked us to stick to the topic...

cheerz <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_1bluewinky.gif" alt="" />

[DevilsAdvo]

This is the flow of the topic... otherwise it will die and fall to the bottom. If you would actually answer then this thread will stay at the top until someone gives the person the answer they want...

Would you like me to start a new thread: "Attn Morbid_Angel, Subject: Women."

Just answer like any other forum and it's members would...

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Go for it!
<img src="/threads/images/graemlins/rocknation.gif" alt="" />

[DevilsAdvo]

Yawn... just stick with the program... When someone asks you a question in real life do you honestly say "Actually that's not quite what we were talking about... let's go into the other room and I'll answer over there..."