Have u eva cheated when u were in a relationship ~

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Hiyz All <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

a simlir topic title made this question come into ma mind ---&gt;Have u eva cheated on the one u Love/Loved or were "supposed to be" in a relationship (aaaah i hate this word :S )with?!

cheating can be by as bad as talking to more than one partner! Having more than one partner!
or as simple as: not being sure of ur feelings when the other person is made to think that u r sure and that u love him/her 99% <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ,100% is very rare nowadayz <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Also Plz do share ,, how did that end?! u confessed?! u r still doing it,, cheating i mean?! ,, she/he found out some way ,,everything ended after this came in light?! still things are ok coz they have big heart?!!

Personally i have neva cheated ,,i ws once in a relationship which ended <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
simply coz i was made to belive that am teh one when there was some1 else in mind and heart <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ,, i wished him good luck and prayed for him to get her ,,n so thats how ma story ended or paused <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ,,still to find that one laa,, then it will end <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

So, Thu am having a doubt that not many wud feel easy to admit thier mistakes <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Care to Share Plz <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Miss Attitude nice topic!
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Anyways, i just wanna say that when ur in a relationship with someone, i dont think that talking with your 'male' friends means your cheating.
Cheating is more like if you agree to be a girlfriend to another guy even if your witth someoene...or if you go out on REAL dates with another guy or if you have some sorta sexual contact with another guy - that is cheating.

But talking to your friends that may happen to be male is not cheating and as long as your honest with your boyfriend from the start then there shouldnt be any misunderstandings right??

I would never lower myself to cheat on the guy that i really care about and love. I couldnt find it in my heart to cause hurt to someoen like that. The thought of cheating would not even come into my mind if i really loved and cared about the guy i was with.
And if i didnt want to be with him anymore, i wouldnt stay with him but go and play behind his back...i would just be open with him and tell him straight that things are not working.

Those people who cheat do not have a heart...thats all i can say and thats what i truly believe!

[cypher]

Hey....You know in our country if you are talking with guy just as friend, that guy won't understand he think that you like him..so that guy will try to get you, he will be surprised if you told him there is nothing between us. Should tell him for the begining that you are talking to him as friend, And i don't think it will work because guys always think that the girl like him..and he thinks he has chance to get that girl...It happen and i heard alot.

You know i guy he will go and say just call me we talk as friend..in fact he wants to get you and the phone and try his chances to get you. Believe me!!...don't think talking with guy on the phone is just being friend. They never understand especially a guy who hasn't have a girlfriend.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Cypher i think thats only desperate guys who think that way. But im hoping us females have better judgement when choosing our friends.

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Hi Morbz, Thanx for seeing dis topic as a nice one <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />



Morbid:

Ok, offcourse i dotn consider having male friends if u r a female and then talking to them as cheating! same way i wont consider it cheating if ma guy has female freinds! offcourse all that should be liek crystal clear for both the parties,, both should knw the male and female friends of the other <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />



But what do u think of a situation where the guy or teh gurl wud make teh other person beilve that he/she is teh one and then one day they find out that thir partner actually is not sure about them,, ! is that a sort of cheating?! or its normal!

wud u mind that happening to u! or u wud feel its ok and it can happen and its ok !



Cypher,

i knw wt u mean! i agree with u 100%.

Alot , lets say 90% of the guys in our country wud think that! wud think bad or what u said: "she likes me" of females who have males freinds! let alone talking in phone or having a kewl hang out!

As u said, as long as there is no double meaning msgs, wrong hints, etc then its tough luck for the guy who wants to live in a dream!

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

"But what do u think of a situation where the guy or teh gurl wud make teh other person beilve that he/she is teh one and then one day they find out that thir partner actually is not sure about them,, ! is that a sort of cheating?! or its normal!
wud u mind that happening to u! or u wud feel its ok and it can happen and its ok " - miss attitude

Well when you get into a relationship with someone, nothing is really certain, i mean we cant be sure about anything really. Sometimes we may feel that "yea this guy is the right one for me" and then after months pass by we realize that we arent ready to be that committed to someone or that we would rather take things slow. This CAN NOT be considered as cheating because its normal for couples to experience this.

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Mrobz,
u r right in wt u said above, given that both parties know from start that they r still not 100% and that there is a chance that one or both migth want to just call it the end!

Wt i ws referring to is when the couple have passed that period! oh well <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ~
Its Neva clear Black or White when it comes to relationships! different cases, different senarios, different causes and different results !

So Guyz Common Confess Laa hehe :P

[rmooshilshargeya]

Come on...Cypher and Mizz-Attt, Dont you think you are kinda generalizing A WHOLE lot when you say 90% of the guys...you conducted a survey or something to prove the 90% of the guys think in the same way...( she is talking to me on the phone therefore she is more than a friend) i think that is being unfair to the rest of the guys who dont think in that way!!

Cheating: doing something (whatever it might be) withsomeon else other than the person you are supposed to be doing it with WITHOUT telling that person...
and when i say "it" dont let your minds float away..it could be anything...
silly example&gt;if you call him "pumpkin" you dont go calling someone else "pumpkin"..&lt;&lt;i know that is a silly example..lakin i just want you to get my point...

loool&gt;pumpkin.....medicine time...

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

lol
pumpkin...
okay well i dont agree with u on such a small lil thing like that.
i mean i have "male" friends who i have given certain nicknames to such as "snoookams" for example, and its totally innocent and if i had a boyfriend it wouldnt mean im cheating on him because i have certain nicknames for my male friends.

Some people have the mentality that "if ur talking to a guy then obviously something more than friends is goin on" and i really hate it. Why cant people accept the fact that some of the best friends we may ever have could possibly be of the opposite sex.
One of my best friends is a male and i wouldnt let anything get in the way of mine and his friendship. If my boyfriend was jealous i would tell him that he would have to live with it because if he doesnt trust me then whats the point of the relationship right?

And anyways, friendships can last forever...relationships dont always!

[rmooshilshargeya]

yeeeeeeeeeeeh...i was giving an example..thats ALL..loool..
pumpkin...ya 7abybe ya qabolee inta..ya chapatee..(imagine!)

WEll these people with such a mentality...should relax and go see a shrink...seriously..if i were to choose between "HIM" and my best friend ( if he were male) i would go for my best friend...wallah..esh salfthum yakhe...jelousy awain....bala jelousy bala ba6ykh...
they should learn to control themselves...be more understanding..

MEN...WOMEN...when in a relationship..LISTEN..with your hearts and mind..not your ears...UNDERSTAND..not words..but feeelings..

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

"MEN...WOMEN...when in a relationship..LISTEN..with your hearts and mind..not your ears...UNDERSTAND..not words..but feeelings.. " - bronze

hey thats a beautiful way of looking at it <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

how many people here would chose their best friend ever over a boyfriend???

[rmooshilshargeya]

Thanks....

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

<img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_1bluewinky.gif" alt="" /> no probs

[rmooshilshargeya]

Question:
i know it is easy answering with a yes pr a no.....think deeply...

Best Friend: knew him all your life..has been by your side..understand you well..has your back!

Boyfriend: your real-life dark knight in shining....shining..um..dishdasha......everything is alright about him..EXCEPT that little thing....his thing about your best friend ( Alisha Keys "girlfriend")...

i think the best way would be to make him understand your situation..i mean that is a bad a$$ situation...

[cypher]

Come on, will you rather let your boyfriends talk to girl and you know that there just a friend..tell me the truth you won't feel jealouse seeing your boyfriend talking to the girl and joking with her...and he see that she is more enjoyable more than you. That can happen some guys realize that this woman is great she is cool, not as my girlfriend she is kind cool, but i love her. And there were Eplise comes. Be careful he is really good in changing people's mind.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Well yea definately we must try to resolve the jealousy that this boyfriend feels towards your "best" male friend. I mean but theres only so much you can do to make him understand.
we could introduce them, invite them to go to dinner together...etc but at the end its up to the boyfriend to get his act together.

I mean he will push his gf away if he keeps on with the jealousy crap because jealousy causes lots of problems in relationships, BEEN THERE DONE THAT so i should know that much! AND i made a promise to myself that the next time i was in a relationship, if he was a real "jealous possessive" type then i would reconsider my choice of boyfriend rather than wait for months to pass before realizing what a jerk i was with!

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Cypher the guy wouldnt be worth my time if he was unable to differenciate between me(his gf) and the girl(his best friend). No one is the same, everyone has different personalities so ofcourse his gf would be different than his best friend.

[rmooshilshargeya]

i will have a little wee bit of jelousy..akeed..but i wont make a big thing out of it...if he loved her..he would have been with her LOOOOONG ago..and there wouldnt be ME+HIM....

Cypher..relationships are not washing machines..they never came with a garantee and never will.....if you are going to get worried about being heart broken...then you will never be in a relationship...ever...

[cypher]

Yuo know what, i hope that a boyfriend of yours talking to your friend, and i have alot of good time together and you are there watching them. How is that feels...Imgine the friend he thinks that your boyfriend doesn't care if you play around with your girlfriend like teasing her do something..i could swear the person who loves this girl will go really upset.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

yea exactly bronze, couldnt have said it better myself.
Ofcourse jealousy exists in all of us but we should have limitations on it just like we have limitations on how much money we spend in a week(unless we are rich!! ha ha)...no but seriously, there is no garantee that any relationship is going to work , i mean what if u get together with someone and then u realize that they arent the one for u for whatever reason?

And its true if the guy wanted to be with his female friend coz he likes her so much then he would have been with her alooooooooooongggggggg time ago as bronze pointed out!

[rmooshilshargeya]

Cypher...7aram 3lyk ya rejal...you wish me to see my boyfriend all over his best friend.?..loool..wallah 7aram..

6al 3omrak, if he is OVERDOING his "BESTFRIENDLINESS" then ofcourse i will not stand waiting for something else to happen..lakin i will deal with it in a adult way...not go there..say...
" Yo...na na na...Dont BABY me...I SAW YOU WID HER..dont Aks me what me trpin' about.....you...SCUM BAG...i trusted you....i wanna see ya lonley a$$ walk out dat door"..7asha..no......i will talk to him..you know...
like normal adults do

[cypher]

Look, to solve every relationship is A trust..That she won't hide from you anything at all about her and same to the other. If one them hide for the other..and one day he find out she was hiding from him...that will be a big mistake..Trust keep relationship live longer.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Cypher what kind of a REAL MAN would do that to his girlfriend anyways?
Hey dont u have any female friends????
if u do, do u go teasing them and flirting like hell with them?????????

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Yes i agree trust is the key to success in a relationship, and thats why u introduce all your friends to your girlfriend or to ur boyfriend.

[rmooshilshargeya]

exactly...you dont keep her locked up or hiding in the tora bora caves.........
Trust+understanding+respect....all the rest come later....

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

and 10 points go to BRONZE
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[rmooshilshargeya]

ehem... <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />....autographs anyone?!

[cypher]

I agree with you 100%, but not talking with a friend on the phone..is not cheating but it is away to keep ur relationship far..like the person is not in to you alot. half for u and half for other. Got me

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

huh?
cypher i dont think best friends are constantly on the phone anyways...i mean every day its nice to call to see how ur friends are doing but its not like 10 hours of the day is gone for talking to friends and even when ur in a relationship with someone, the person would get really bored if all u ever did was always on the phone together...

everyone needs to have some time to actually miss their other half!
dont u agree?

[rmooshilshargeya]

sho half half...no...UNACCEPABLE...60/40..LOOL..
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as long as you know you have the other person's heart....there is nothing to worry about...relaxxxxxxxx....
lay back..........and just breaaaaaaaath....

(bronze&lt;&lt;relaxed moood today)

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

lol
take a deeeeeeeeeeep breath.......and let all your worries out!
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(bronze i bet everyone thinks me and u are the GURUS of relationships....! lol)

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Naamani...Nomad...where are u guys?
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[cypher]

Yeah...talk to ur friend i mean girls..your friends..boys unh ahh...wrong..cousin it is okay...ba3ad maybe.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

maybe what?

[rmooshilshargeya]

girlfriend, am good in talking...lakin put me on the spot..my goodness....i can mess stuff...giving advice is easy...but when you are in that situation and with all the mixed emotions ..it can get a bit messy..and things dont seem as crystal clear as you thought they might be!!!!

you just have to have a clear mind...set emotions on the side..and look at situations through a different perspective...B-R-E-A-T-H...and all will be alright...

Nomad+Nomani..wonder what those two would be tellin' <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

[cypher]

That's why i just put a topic about women are not sensetive than men..i feel if i talk to this girl i will hurt my girlfriend..even if i told her that i am talking to her and even i ask her is it okay to talk to her..OFcourse she will say..yes but inside she is buring...so i don'r have to ask her i won't do it...Coz i love that person alot. even if i am away i will never cheat on her.

[cypher]

maybe cousin it is okay to talk to...i am talking about male cousin...not female cousin.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Ofcourse cypher cheating is wrong at all costs BUT theres a difference between talking to ur female friends and cheating!

If women are not as sensitive as men as you claim, then why would she be "burning" inside if u told her u talk to female friends?
And u know what this is not always the case, as said before everyone gets jealous to some extent but how can u end ur friendship with ur very close friends because of a gf.

How will ur friends feel if u did that to her?think of it in that way

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

well ofcourse its OKAY to talk to ur cousins...i mean they are ur blood relatives they are like ur bros and sisters!

[cypher]

Morbid which kind of friend male or female. If it is female it is advantage for ur boyfriend...if it is female it is disadvantage for ur boyfriend.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

cypher i dont think it matters if its a male or female friend. The fact is, well to me anyways, my friends are all very precious and important to me and there is NOOOOO WAYYYY i will lose my friends and let go of good friendships because of a boyfriend.

[rmooshilshargeya]

Question: hatha il boyfriend (hopefully) would become a part of the family one day ( through marriage..DUHH..)..
he will have to deal with these cousins some day woulnt he?..it could be now...try and accept that this one he loves is a living creature that needs to interact with her own kind (family)...

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

I also wanted to add that what if u deserted all of your friends (male or female) because of this person u were dating...and one day you and your partner start to have many problems and you break up....
all your friends will be like "hey u left us because of him and now that hes left you, you want us back!"...

My advice to u cypher and anyone else who thinks the same is that PLEASE DONT EVER LET GO OF GOOD FRIENDSHIPS for whatever reason. I did that in the past and i suffered for almost a year because i had no support after i broke up with my boyfriend that i was with for over 3 years!!!!!!

[rmooshilshargeya]

you said it!

[cypher]

so you mean freinds are more important than boyfriend. you your boyfreind can be part of those friend..but still maybe someone like ur boyfriend but you took him before someone..so that person is jealous so his/her will try hard to get him coz she is envy you...but still if you trust him and he trust you no one will stop you guys.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

If there is a girl after my boyfriend i dont think i would worry about it that much because if i trusted my boyfriend and he trusted me then there is no problem and exactly nothing will stop us.

Cypher friends are VERY VERY IMPORTANT part of our lives. Especially if we are still young, why are we making our new boyfriend something 1 million times better than anyone...sometimes our judgements of people can be wrong and then we realize we made a big mistake by forgetting about our friends because of some guy!

and anyways a REAL MAN would want his gf to have as many friends as possible...he would be happy for her! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[rmooshilshargeya]

with me and him it would be
"aint no mountain high enough...aint no river deep enough...aint no body strong enough ..to keep me from away from you baby"...
i got the song wrong somewhere...but you know what i mean..

[cypher]

yes but again...it can be boys,but it is prefer to be girls..so it will be fair for your boyfriend..if you love him.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

ofcourse i would love my boyfriend with every beat of my heart and i would do everything to keep him happy but one thing he HAS TO understand (without a doubt) is that my friends are my friends and im not going to say "GOODBYE" to good friends because of his jealousy. I will do everything to help him not to be jealous but if he cared about me and loved me too he wouldnt ask me to chose between him and my friends because he wouldnt like my answer if he asked thta!

[rmooshilshargeya]

fair?....so i just ignore everyone i know (guys) for him..and he does the same ( ignore all the girls)..
yakhe we might as well just rent some island and live there...
na..i want him to be a social-animal...with both sexes..with limits......but am not putting a dog collar around his neck...he knows better..

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

lol yea exactly ya bronze!!

[cypher]

hey...you are right..but there are some guys don't understand the meaning of friends..i don't care unless that guy know the girls is mine.So don't try to do a wrong move.

[rmooshilshargeya]

cheers <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/cool2.gif" alt="" />

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Mornin All ~

Haaay Morbz, Bronze and Cypher Thanx for ur inputs <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />,,

when i checked the number of replies to this topic i thought woo man will have some kewll time reading all these confessions and Wopsssssssssss it wass all about : "MY Boyfriend OR My Best Male Friend!"

i just want to add sth about wt u gusy were discussing, sometimes it can happen that ur best friend might just decide "without u asking him to" to try and be less in touch with u , or be less around u, or maybe even like leave u -but still be there but without u knwoing- simply coz he wud know that his existence wud cause harm to ur relationship with ur love of life!
If the true frined can do sth as difficult as that! and the boyfriend cant just accept a male friend for his gurl! Then surely its a sad thing! Why a boyfreind cant be just a freind as well !!! maybe then he wud understand!

Tip: Make sure u r freind with ur boyfreind <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy u guyzzzzzzzz n guyzaaaat in Oman forum! thu ur identities are hidden, still u feel cowered to confess ur cheating epesiodes ! :P , i mean el-e3tiraf bil-thanb fadheela <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

[Jinan]

U think everyone around here cheates on their freinds / partners ??

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Jinan
You never know!
Its not as if cheating is uncommon, it has unfortunately become more common these days! And not just between boyfriend/girlfriend couples...im talking about even married couples!!!!!!!! And the sad thing is, the wives usually are unaware! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Jinan,,

Why getting so upset?!!!
No i Dont think everyone around here cheats! including myself! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

But am sure alot around here did and mite still do ~

i knew when i started this topic that i wont be getting much replies ,,simply coz no one wants to look bad <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and coz not much have teh stregth to admit their mistakes!

i dont think its bad if they really relasied wt mistake they have done n wont do it again. bil3aks,sharing such stories, the outcomes and and showing to others how wrong it is can prevent others from falling into similar mistakes!

CheerZ

[Jinan]

Naah am not upset... though we are starngers in here.. I dont think alot of them wud want to talk abt their cases.

[Nomad]

A lot of people are probably shifting in their chairs reading this thread. <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

As for me, I haven't. I broke up once with a girl because I realised that I had feelings for another girl and didn't think it was fair on my gf or myself at the time.

The worst thing you can do in my opinion is cheat. There are no excuses. No matter how bad things are, you still have to try to work things out. If you try and fail, then you leave.

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

So Nomad u r saying that its not kinda cheating when two ppl get 2gether as serious couples and then pooooof in teh middle of the road one goes like: tata bye bye!

For me thats cheating!

Unless two ppl knw from teh start that this is a trial and error phase for both to make sure of thier feelings and all, then its 100% cheating to be with some1 and then just leave them!

However, in such cases as urz its better to do that, break up i mean, then to continue cheating! i.e. being wid some1 and liking another one!

Cheatings is not only when some1 does sth physical! not only when u talk to some1 else, meet some1, etc etc ,, cheating can be at a much deeper level ,, u can cheat on some1 with ur soul! when u show sth n in heart have sth else! even if u dont give that kinda of cheating a physical act !!

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[Nomad]

Where do you people grow up?! I would love to live in a world that was THAT black and white!


The problem with people is that they assume too much.

My dear Miss_AtTiTuDe, to say that you are grossly guilty of that would be an understatement. Where in my post did I say poof just like that? Would you rather that I see this other girl and my gf at the same time? Where did I say that we were serious? Did you know the circumstances at the time?

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then its 100% cheating to be with some1 and then just leave them!

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Sorry people, I'm calling it. BS! Did I cheat on her? How do you know? Did I call this other girl and meet her for coffee? Did I go to the movies with her?


How would you know that? Do you read the auora around my post to see if I am evil at heart?

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Cheatings is not only when some1 does sth physical! not only when u talk to some1 else, meet some1

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Do you call these things cheating? If I talk to another woman other than my gf or my wife (which I have none of at the moment), have I violated their trust?

If you consider that cheating then you are in for one lonely ride.

Just for your information Mz Attitude, when I started going out with my gf at the time, we both decided that it wouldn't be serious, that if we found that we liked other people then we would call it off. We were more best friends than anything else. So when I realised that I liked someone else, I talked to her, she understood and told me to ask the other girl out on a date.

Our friendship didn't change. We were still best of friends and till today keep in touch. All of this happened 5 years ago.

The only thing that makes sense to me in your last post is
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cheating can be at a much deeper level

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If I seem rude then its because I find it extremely annoying when people make assumptions about me when they do not even know me. I just want you to think before making assumptions.

[cypher]

Man!! cheating really hurts..as if the hard rain is falling on you, thousand of knives stapping your chest and as if you are falling from higher building

[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Dear Nomad! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
can i bring u a cold glass of water?1 with Ice?! :P

Take it easy dear, i neva said that uuuuu cheated! when i read ur post i wantd to ask u this: "Hay nomad wud u mind telling if u both knw from start that u gusy are in a testing phase!"

Howvere, i felt maybe it wud eb a personal thing,,so i didnt!

in ur post u didnt mention that both of u knew and agreed on a trial phase! so i cud assume that u were in a trail phase or in a serious phase! so i commented on both ! and asked u this :

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So Nomad u r saying that its not kinda cheating when two ppl get 2gether as serious couples and then pooooof in teh middle of the road one goes like: tata bye bye!

For me thats cheating!


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Then, and plz read carefully and note that B4 that "100% cheating" which u qouted above i said this:

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Unless two ppl knw from teh start that this is a trial and error phase for both to make sure of thier feelings and all, then its 100% cheating to be with some1 and then just leave them!


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Maybe this bit was a bit confusing and u thought that am directing it to u, in which case am sowy!

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However, in such cases as urz its better to do that, break up i mean, then to continue cheating! i.e. being wid some1 and liking another one!


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there i was referring to the 1st senario i.e when 2 are serious couples till one realises that WOPS! i really wasnt that serious! and then tata bye bye <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

yaau agreed on the last bit so i dotn have to clear that one! Hoooff thats a reliefe <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Where do you people grow up?! I would love to live in a world that was THAT black and white!


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i dotn kwn when i'll grow up , i'll alway sbe a kid in heart <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> :P

Wolrd is not that Black and White, Thats why we are arguying here <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

ThanxXx <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

[Nomad]

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[Dark Angel]

Cheating in a relationship is stupid.

[Nomad]

Mz Atittude,

I did get a little hot headed, and I do apologise for that, but it seems like we are both on the same page now.

Don't be afraid to ask something personal. Whats the worst that could happen? If I found that it was too personal to disclose, I would say so.

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[Miss_AtTiTuDe]

Nomad ~
No probelm <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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[cypher]

I mean i don't understand i am getting phone calls for girl making relationship after seeing and know them better, after few month..the girl start to say..you like my Bro..i don't get it where did i go wrong.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

"The worst thing you can do in my opinion is cheat. There are no excuses. No matter how bad things are, you still have to try to work things out. If you try and fail, then you leave."

Yea and i agree with you on this ya nomad! The worst thing anyone can do is CHEAT! If you find that things arent working out with the person you are with then just break up with them but dont lead them to believe u still love them and at the same time be messing around with other people

[Nomad]

Cypher, I know exactly what you mean!

With me, the girl and I would chat for hours and this carried on for the better part of 6 months if not more.

After I asked her out (after something like 8 months), she said, you're like a best friend to me.......We Don't Click...<img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_headscratch.gif" alt="" />

I mean I have the phone bills to prove that we did! <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

She even told me "If I let myself, I could easily fall in love with you" When I asked her what's stopping her, she said "I don't know" After that, she cut off all communication.

This was over a year ago...

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Nomad women get scared alot of the times especially if we have been through relationships in the past that turned out really bad...
i mean even if we really like the guy and he is everything we could ever ask for in a man, sometimes we cant allow our hearts to fall in love even though it would be easy to do so.

Maybe because we dont want to get hurt again or we are scared of making a commitment to someone...the reasons are many but it happens. <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_sad2.gif" alt="" />

[Nomad]

Well you've got to get out of your shell sometime! I can understand that its fear of getting hurt...every now and then I send a txt to say hi or just howz it going and still no response...

Well, some are slower than others I guess.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

Nomad yea definately everyone has to crawl out of their shell at some point but its harder for girls i guess.
Well another way to look at it:
If she really cared for u as a friend even then she wouldnt just ditch u like that with no explanation.

Sometimes we all do really weird things....come to think of it ive even ditched someone before for a similar reason.... <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/anim_peoples.gif" alt="" />

[Jinan]

Poor u Nomad.. all those phone bills :P



I dont call meeting my males freinds while being committed cheating.. thats nothing but plain garbage...it doesnt make sense... so wht if u go for movies or coffee with ur freinds.. its not that ur flirting or fooling around with him.



I hate cheating and I hate cheaters... U guys shud watch " cheaters" on reality TV... u will really come to know cheating really means... god u feel u sorry for those ppl... u see them madly inlove with their partners.. and on the other side their partners do nothing but to screw around.. thats pathetic.

[cypher]

But Morbid she is right the some girls are afraid to have relationship with other guys...maybe because she had relationship with someone and broke up in bad that hurt her so much. So now she is afraid to make relationship again. I always forgive all who told me she wants to be as friends.and i always give a second chance if she wants to have relation with me again.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

cypher ur a very sensitive guy i must say <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
but thats good, its nice to know we still have some decent men around
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[cypher]

Naaa... <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> but anyway being senitive women can control you, Coz she knows that you love her...so my weakens is when she say you don't love me.By Alhmdullah i have one that she is not like the others girl..she is amazing.

[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

thats great for you <img src="/threads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> best of luck!

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[Dabdoob_Al_Helwa]

OKAY im sorry
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[cypher]

i knew i was being out of limit