7th July 2004, 10:37 AM
...I've encountered cases where ppl ..be it gals or guys.. get married coz they r just bored...they r in a desperate change of their routine life.... They need to move out of their parents house...all kind of silly excuses... ummm they end up misery-ing another human... an innocent partner who actually have an honest marriage intention and not a hidden one !!
......some say..with the so called conservative society like Oman... the choices r limited when it comes to having fun with the opposite gender.... Though is that really an excuse to get married ? Has marriage became such a demeaning institute ? Is marriage really is a get away from peoples misery in life ?
7th July 2004, 05:26 PM
Do you mean to say that single Omani people are miserable??
Misery is what you make it!
I certainly wasn't miserable when I married. And I don't regret getting married either.
7th July 2004, 05:43 PM
Vanquish..what ur saying is that these people get married cuz their bored of their life routine....so i guess this means that when they get married for a few years then they will get bored again of their wife/husband and would get a divorce cuz they wanna change their routine or the face they see every morning...
i mean i wish it was that easy..being bored so go get married and involve an innocent person like you said ..what could the circumstanses be than
7th July 2004, 06:50 PM
I have a far-off cousin who is in his twenties. As soon as he hit 24, he was itching to get married!!! he said he wanted some change in his life!!! i mean talk about immaturity or idiocy! and he did get married the next year! i used to tell him if you want change in your life, go bungee jump or climb a mountain, cross a river or something! but not married! anyways the story ended happily, luckily for him and for HER most importantly!
7th July 2004, 08:20 PM
If you get married because you are bored and need a change in lifestyle, then you are getting married for the wrong reasons. Not only that, you will accept the first guy that comes along and proposes, or accept the first girls to show slight interest in you.
Worse than that, you don't really know the person and then you have a marriage that sometimes you wish you never got into.
7th July 2004, 08:35 PM
Why are we treating marriage as a commodity and not a decent way of life here?
7th July 2004, 09:35 PM
thats the way the people are now Fazli..
People dont realise the real value of marriage and how sacred it is.. its not about a change in a routine.. its about serious committment and being there for your spouse in thick and thin..
7th July 2004, 09:36 PM
here is has become a fashion statement to get married young and then get divorced ... they dont understand what marriage is ... half the time these people are too young to take responsibility of themselves so how can they take the responsibility of another person !!!!!
7th July 2004, 11:25 PM
8th July 2004, 03:21 AM
Everyone has the urge to get marry as part of normal life process whether young or older. If one gets marry just for the purpose that is totally different issue and should seek a partner of equally minds, because here then the values of marriage are underestimated and the results is always regrettable. Marriage is sacred and should be held in high regard.
This topic has some merits if you ever observed old men marrying young girls. It is unmatch criteria that bound with torture because here the old man is no longer marrying for sacred duties but for pleasure. I watched a BBC program few years back showing old Omani men marrying teenage girls in Hyderabad India, in such a way the whole intention was for pleasure wheres most of those marriages never worked.
10th July 2004, 06:04 AM
I too have seen people reach a certain stage in life where they believe they should settle down, marry and start having children. I think it's a natural cycle, but as Tiger Lily said, that's getting married for the wrong reasons.
9th August 2004, 09:08 PM
those who get married for the wrong reasons will get divorced for the wrong reasons too!..
those people should realize that marriage is a life time commitment ..it's not a game they want to play....or a play they get into because they are bored, or want to run away from thier problems!